Edible Fact!
Have you ever been in a situation where you know what you know? But then someone questions what you know, and your confidence falls short. And then you back down?
Welcome to my life!
I’ve worked in real estate for over a decade (commercial and residential). I have my degree in Business and in Political Science. I have worked on many successful political campaigns in both marketing and liaison roles. I’ve even earned a certification in digital and social media. Clearly, I make it a point to continuously educate myself in all the fields I serve. Yet, my confidence falls far short of my competence. Some days, I wish they would just match!
My enneagram number is an 8. That makes me a defender to all and a bit of a control freak. But while I grant the grace of defense to others, I often do not give myself the same strength. People, however, never see me this way. I attribute this misconception to my ability to speak directly and with confidence – no matter how I’m feeling inside. But it’s true, I suffer from…. IMPOSTER SYNDROME.
For those who don’t know, imposter syndrome “refers to an internal experience of believing that you are not as competent as others perceive you to be.”
I’m not the only one who suffers from this feeling. In Rebecca Minkoff’s book Fearless, she talks about her own failures and let downs because she too suffers from this very same condition. She writes “when you feel like yourself in a situation where you feel in over your head, remind yourself that you are there for a reason and nobody belongs there more than you.”
This week’s Edible Fact comes from Rebecca’s wisdom: “you will never regret your failures more than not trusting you gut.” I try to remind myself of this every day, and in every conversation.
Fact is, I am competent in the services I offer. Fact is, I sometimes let those less competent undermine my confidence. In order to combat this, I read that portion of Fearless over and over, and I recommend you should too!