Sun or Shade?
Do you feel apprehension or guilt for making money?
I do.
It is difficult to pinpoint why I have this feeling. Maybe its because I have seen people with money use it as a tool to wield control and power in a manipulative way. Maybe I know there are people who need the funding more. Maybe I don’t feel like I’m good enough to have it. Could be one of the above, all the above or none of the above.
There are so many of us out there who feel the same way.
I am a huge fan of Jen Sincero, a #1 New York Times Bestselling author, speaker, and success coach. I fell in love with her at a women’s event held by the Ohio Board of Realtors where she was a guest speaker. She talked about how we are our greatest stumbling blocks, and how we need to start seeing ourselves as the badass women we truly are in this world. I don’t know about you, but I need people like this in my life.
I, of course, immediately downloaded her audiobook “You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life”. I highly recommend listening to this book over and over again until it’s embedded into your blood stream. Jen broaches the topic of women and money in her breakout book.
She dives deeper into the topic with her follow up book You are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth,. The first thing she states is “Making money is like having sex. You’re supposed to know what you’re doing and be all great at it, but nobody teaches you anything about it, and you’re never supposed to talk about it because it’s inappropriate, dirty and … not so classy. Both money and sex can provide unthinkable pleasures, but we’re ashamed to admit that we want it, and we will do things/people, we’re not specifically into in order to get it.”
Clearly, I love her style of writing.
There are many reasons why we have an unhealthy relationship with money. Whether or not we can make a ton of it is typically not one of them.
So, if you are feeling the same way I am, and like me, you don’t have all the answers, push through, and start having the conversations that make you feel uncomfortable.