I have said this before and will die saying this: surround yourself with people who lift you up, support you, and love you in the good, the bad, and the ugly.
I have been very lucky in my adult life to have so many of those people in my circle. I went from being the outcast, nerd and undesired friend for so much of my youth, to finally recognizing and having the truest sense of beautiful women in my life. Ironically that came from the love of a man: my husband. If you know me, you know that feels crazy for me to say and even harder for me to admit.
No matter how many times I tried to push him away, he stayed. He was patient. He was consistent. Without fail, he constantly reminds me that I’m smart, funny, beautiful and something he needs. He makes me feel wanted. Its taken 18 years, but I finally believe him.
Let me be very clear, we fight like no other. We disagree on SO many things. There are times we fail each other. BUT we are unconditional in our growth with one another.
I come from a divorced family. My father – God rest his soul –could not be that man in my life. Consequently, my youth was riddled with self-doubt: would I ever be enough for anyone to stick around? And then my husband showed up.
The growth of our relationship triggered a cascade of positive effects in my life. I began trusting myself more. And then I began trusting others more. I began seeing me. And I gained better perspective on those I love. We all have difference makers in our lives. My husband has been a major one for me.
Think about who has been a major difference maker in your life. Think about how they impacted you. I have been blessed with so many and I bet you have too.